Thursday, April 15, 2010

Imran and I

I wrote the first part of this a couple of days after Imran's passing. I wrote the next part a few days ago.  Writing about Imran has been the most difficult thing I have had to do. But I felt I couldn't move on to anything else until I did.

In the days since his death, I have been searching for the words, looking for a place to start. Every time I formulate something in my mind, or I try to clear the mist, it seems woefully inadequate. There seems to be nothing in the spaces except grief, heartbreak and shock. I cannot think of him without the tears. Even though the time Imran and I spent together were some of the best moments of my life, it is hard to remember them in the face of the hurt, and the deafening finality of his departure from this world.

I keep replaying the day in my head. The phone call on the way to work from Yasir telling me Imran had taken his own life. The complete shock and incomprehension. The deluge of phone calls and messages of people wanting to know what happened, why it happened. The sickness and the nausea of telling everyone again and again and having to confirm something I still hadn't come to terms with myself. I didn't have the answers then and I don't have the answers now.

Yasir and me left work and spent the day together. We needed each other. We needed OK too, but he was far away in the US, on his own. We needed to have the original four together, to talk our way through, to make sense of what had happened. When you lose someone, sometimes it doesn't hit you immediately. It's almost like an out of body experience, like it's happening to someone else. Then slowly it begins to grip you, little by little, like cracks in a dam. It only takes one memory , one word or one image to set off the flood. When Imran's brother embraced me and told me how much Imran loved us. I couldn't hold back any longer. I cried and cried, shaking with the violent, overwhelming force of my own grief. The waves of pain, hurt and heartbreak crashed against me until I was choking on my own tears.

We loved Imran too. More than he or anybody else would ever know.

I had always known of Imran Lodhi. Back when I was in high school I had a band called Caesars Dog. It was my very first band, and we fancied ourselves as being pretty good, we used to call ourselves the best band in Karachi Grammar School. But people would come up to us and say, "You guys haven't heard of this band called "Undertow", they have this awesome lead singer/guitarist, Imran Lodhi, you should check them out!". (Undertow included such future talent as Kashan Admani, who later became Mizmaars guitarist and Adnan Hussain, the drummer for Aaroh.). Naturally I hated them without hearing them play a note. My competitive nature wouldn't allow me to publicly acknowledge the talent of any other lead singer/guitarist. But secretly I hoped to attend one of their shows one day just to see who these chaps were and were they really as good at covering Led Zeppelin as I heard they were?

Six years passed, I went to college abroad, graduated, worked for a year and then I came back to Pakistan. I was looking to form a band. OK and I had already met and done a couple of shows together with different people. It was at one of these performances where I finally met the guys who would be my future bandmates. OK and I were performing at an Open-Mic Night at this dingy little cafe called Caffeine. I don't remember it being a particularly great show. But nevertheless, we were approached afterwards by a tall burly looking chap who talked a lot, a small quiet guy who I thought couldn't have been more than 16 years old, and a tall lanky fellow who was always smiling.

 I had met Khawar, Yasir and Imran.

 They told me they had formed an independent record label called Infinite Arts where they were looking to release, record and organize concerts for underground artists. I was pretty excited about meeting them and we promised to meet up later. One thing led to another and they ended up coming over to my place to jam. That's how it started.

It all began by me blowing up Lodhi's amplifier. In my over-eagerness I had taken his 15W Fender amp and plugged it into a 220V socket without its 110V convertor. It promptly blew a fuse. I was mortified, what a horrible way to start a relationship. To his credit, Lodhi was forgiving and immediately I had it repaired.

Imran and I hit it off almost immediately. Of course anyone who knew us will tell you that we were polar opposites as personalities. Imran was a musicians musician, technically proficient, but with an uncanny knack of playing with real feeling and emotion. He was incredible as a guitarist, he could switch between playing orthodox scales to fusing eastern and western melodies with ease. When he played me his songs, I was instantly jealous and in awe. His melodies were so complex, and his arrangements so well crafted. I felt like a rank amateur in front of him. Yet I was giddy with excitement. The first song we jammed together was “Is Tanhai Ko”. We figured out the chords and I picked up the bass. I remember the room instantly exploding, with OK counting in the beat and all of us coming together to form that pounding yet delicate rhythm. It was incredible. When we stopped there were goofy smiles all around. We knew we had something. I knew I had been looking for Imran, and now I had found him, I knew it was going to be special.

Imran and I would spend hours together working on the songs. Before jam sessions, he would arrive early and him and I would sit across each other and construct the songs. So many songs came together like that, Imran would bring in the bare bones of the melody and lyrics and I would arrange the rhythm, tempos and breaks. We learned how to communicate without words, learning how to anticipate what the other wanted. It was one of the most creatively rewarding times of my life. Within a week we had come up with songs like “Such”, “Shehar kay Aansoo”, “Vaadey” and “Dhoop”. Sometimes I would have the bulk of the song and Imran would come up with a middle section, and sometimes I would have a cool bridge or intro and Imran would figure a way to put it in his song. Before we knew it we had an albums worth of songs. I couldn't believe how naturally and organically it came about. We were so confident, even then that we knew we had to go into a studio and record them all, even though it strategically didn't make sense for a new band.

He taught me so much musically. Before Imran, I had never known how to do a vocal harmony. I still find it difficult to do. Imran was a natural at it, he would effortlessly harmonize a vocal line to whatever I was singing while I looked on in awe. I was heavily influenced by his lyrics. But most of all Imran taught me to believe in my work, to believe in performing my originals.

Imran was responsible for much of ADP's vision. It was Imran who forced us to play our original songs in concert. It was Imran who forced us to record quickly and put the songs out. Without him, we never would have had the confidence or the self belief to play our originals for a public who had never heard of us before. We would have been playing covers, like most underground bands. But it was Imran's thinking that set us apart. All he wanted to do was put out music, all the time, as quickly as possible.

That's where him and I started to disagree. I wanted to be deliberate, pace the release of our songs, work on them till perfection, but this frustrated Imrans vision of what an artist should be. While we butted heads many times over the external issues of being in a band, we never argued musically, and when we took the stage together, the four of us began to create fantastic chemistry that set our live shows apart from the other bands.

Playing with Imran back in those days was one of the best periods of my life. Sure we were this little underground band that nobody heard of. Sure our album was raw and under produced. But it was us against the world. Imran and I, being the two vocalists copped the brunt of the criticism, and it brought us even closer together. It was us against the rest of them. For us, ADP was almost like a gang rather than a band. The four of us were inseparable. We were ready to take on anybody, and we played live wherever we got the chance, whether it was opening for major acts, or small undergound shows, from hostile crowds in cafes to weddings in peoples houses.

That's when I really got to know Imran. Him and I would often pair up, driving to and from gigs. We'd have long, crazy conversations about life, love and music. He was a sensitive gentle guy, someone who wore his emotions on his sleeve. He was passionate about music, and I mean really passionate, not like how most musicians claim to be. He loved music for all the right reasons. It moved him. It made him giddy with happiness. He was completely at ease moving to a beat or breaking into a song when something came in his head. He spoke lovingly about the albums that influenced him and the musicians he wanted to emulate. I never tired of talking to him about music. He was also a hopeless romantic, more so than I was. I loved that about him. I loved that he could be so vulnerable in his songs. He used to be really shy about singing “Gaata Mein Chaloon” because it was an unabashed love song. But to me, it was his best song, and I kept pushing him to perform it.

Imran was an inspiration to countless underground musicians. He always had time for the kids who would work up the nerve to talk to us after a concert. They loved talking to Imran, he was the friendliest and most approachable guy in the band. He represented them. He was the living embodiment of a guy who could write commercial music and still have “underground' credibility. They wanted to be him. Imran went to great lengths to promote his underground buddies. Every Thursday he set up jam sessions at the Basement Cafe, where we hung out. The scene started off great, with musicians from all over Karachi meeting up and jamming together. It began to irritate me after awhile, I just wanted to make music with my own band and not jam with people I considered sub-standard musicians. But Imran had time for everyone. He never berated or put down anyone. He had the wonderful, albeit naive quality of always finding the best in people. He was a wonderful, encouraging, nurturing force and many underground musicians today owe Imran for getting them a start.

Things changed over the years with ADP, Imran and I were drifting apart over a series of disagreements over the direction of the band. The sad part is most of is was outside, irrelevant stuff now that I look back on it. All of it was trivial when it came to the music. Imran and I were always able to put aside our differences when it came to the songs. He had matured as a songwriter, and the new material he was writing for ADP was exciting for all of us.

We all knew Imran would be leaving for Canada to finish his degree. It wasn't confirmed, but there was a possibility that it could happen. When Imran confirmed the news, we knew it was going to be the end of ADP as it had been. It was a sad end, but we had all mentally prepared ourselves. We performed our last show together at the Ultralounge, in front of some close friends and fans. That night, I said goodbye to Imran, bid him a safe trip, confident that I'd be jamming again with him again one day. He pulled me in for a long, emotional embrace. Imran wasn't self conscious when it came to hugs.

That night, would be the last time I saw him.

If only I had known that would be the last time. But it was.

The other night, we paid tribute to Imran and his songs at the Second Floor. His family and all his close friends were there. We laughed, we cried but most of all we celebrated the wonderful songs Imran had given us and all the joy we shared with him. It helped, in some small way for all of us who had been grieving. I know he would have enjoyed it. Heck I think he was there. I could have sworn I heard him attempting a vocal harmony, as I sang “Gaata Mein Chaloon”. I know he would have got it right in the first go.


Goodbye my brother. I'm going to miss you.

18 Comments:

Blogger for every reaction.... said...

really sorry for your loss Oba,that post must've taken a lot out of you to put out there.I'm sure there is much more that you cannot share with us.ADP must go on and you must do well.

2:26 PM  
Anonymous Alqian said...

finally ... i have been waiting ages for you to write your blog again ...

4:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

very touchy note oba!! its always a tragedy when we lose a gentle soul. i feel for you. it does get easier with time but it still hurts sometimes...

5:08 PM  
Blogger Roshni said...

Hang in there man..

5:32 PM  
Anonymous sadsid said...

what an amazing tribute to a friend. touching and heart warming.

6:12 PM  
Anonymous sadsid said...

on a separate note - hey you r really good writer . u shud definitely pursue this. and yeah u sing pretty well too

6:21 PM  
Blogger Emaan Khan said...

Didn't get to read the whole bit but Knew Imran briefly and was very disturbed. Hope you are doing well!

Best Regards,
Emaan Khan

7:54 PM  
Anonymous Laila said...

Sigh. Uncle. =)
I miss the old line-up too, you guys always seemed like a family to me.
You probably already know this, but it was always really evident, even before he left the band, from the way your wrote and talked about him, that you care about him a lot.
I remember the first time I saw you guys, he was talking about the album, and he was like, "It's done, and I wish i could just give it to my friends, but Omar wouldn't let me do that."
I can tell you've learned a lot from him; and for what it's worth, I think that you guys have been incredibly brave throughout this.
Much love. <3

10:33 PM  
Blogger Alpha Za said...

Extremely poignant, I feel for your loss.

12:20 AM  
Blogger Zakintosh said...

Tremendous piece, OBA. Very difficult to write with all your emotions.

7:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Man you're a true rockstar!

12:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

too much LOVE is the real problem here.. had you guys hated him - he'd be still living..

shame to see people taking their lives when they are loved..

11:09 PM  
Blogger Nabeel said...

Powerful. Of course we cannot understand. But we too can remember and celebrate the joy he brought to our lives. Rock on, OBA, rock on.

11:38 AM  
Anonymous Rabayl said...

Beautifully written tribute, very moving. I remember that first Open Mic Night at Caffeine where you guys introduced yourselves as Aunty Disco Project :)

Good luck, and Godspeed.

12:23 PM  
Anonymous Sarahbee. said...

Sigh. There's one thing that I STILL don't get.
Why is it that only the good ones get to go?
Imran. Was an amazing person. More than I could've imagined him to be.
It's just. not fair at times.

But. Honestly. I think we're a little selfish when we wish the ones that have gone were back. For what? For a world filled with hate, lust and war? As opposed a place that's absolutely perfect.
I'm pretty darn sure Imran's happy where he is.
But he should know. We're not. As selfish as it is.

2:19 AM  
Blogger Omar said...

Thank you all for your words of comfort.

To the last Anonymous commenter whose comment I deleted.

Usually I let people say whatever they want on this blog, I strongly feel people are entitled to their opinion.
However, your comments about Imran and his passing are hurtful and insensitive, not just to me but to his friends and family who frequent this site regularly. You may express your views elsewhere, but not on this blog.

6:29 PM  
Anonymous Raza Hasnain said...

dear bilal!how imran died suddenly??means he was arrested in any kind of disease or not???

3:35 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

now im the most biggest fan of imran lodhi :').. luv him <3 from depth of my heart

4:33 PM  

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